Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change

ISBN : 9780195379587

Valerie Porr, M.A.
424 ページ
157 x 234 mm

BPD is a potentially devastating mental disorder characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, and dangerous impulsivity. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or staying in school. It is believed that suicide claims about one in ten people with BPD. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change is a compassionate, informative, and reassuring guide to understanding this profoundly unsettling-and widely misunderstood-mental illness, believed to affect 2-3% of the general population. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder offers families and loved ones supportive guidance that both validates the difficulties they face and shows how they can be overcome. Rather than viewing people with BPD as manipulative opponents in a bitter struggle, or pitying them as emotional invalids, this book argues that BPD is in fact a true neurobiological disorder. It clearly explains what BPD is, which therapies have proven most effective, and how to overcome the stigma associated with the disorder. The book teaches concerned family members effective coping behaviors and interpersonal skills, such as new ways of talking about emotions, building awareness of nonverbal communication, and validating difficult experiences. These skills are derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Mentalization Therapy, two evidence-based treatments that have proven highly successful in reducing family conflict and aggressive incidents in the home, while increasing hope and trust. Providing accessible explanations of cutting-edge neurobiological research, Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder takes a fundamentally different approach to the disorder: an empowering and hopeful guide to increasing understanding of the BPD experience-and to making use of that understanding in day-to-day interactions.


1. A Voice for the Voiceless: Validating Families of People with BPD
2. The Juggler: Reframing BPD - An Overview of Neurobiology of the Disorder
3. How Do You Change Behavior
4. Validation: Talking to the Amygdala
5. How to Speak Emotion: What are Emotions - Learning the Language of BPD
6. Radical Acceptance and Grieving
7. Understanding DBT
8. Mindfulness and DBT Coping Skills
9. Is DBT enough? Understanding Mentalization
10. Putting it All Together: How to Do the DBT Dance
11. Collaborating for Change: What Clinicians Need to Know
12. Advocacy


Valerie Porr, M.A., is a mental health advocate trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, the most widely-used therapeutic technique for BPD, and the founder and president of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA NAPD). She conducts psycho-educational training seminars for family members of those with BPD, in New York and elsewhere. The coauthor of New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder, Porr lives in New York City.